My Values

This has been one of those days where I am feeling rather reflective. Lost in my thoughts about various things I realized that I have not stated my values. I mean sure you can guess from my previous posts, but to list and elaborate, I have yet to do. So that is what this post will be about. My values in elaboration.

Honesty.

Honesty to me is very important because how else can you expect to learn anything, if what you are learning is a lie? I am often lied to and do not take kindly. I have learned how to tell when someone is lying, but the behaviour disgusts me. So many wrongs can come of it, like a rumour or false allegations. Simply put, I cannot trust or respect someone who just lies. I know there is a time and place for such things, but a constant is not acceptable.

Friendship.

Friendship is extremely important to me because it is a love that can fulfill me to the point where I do not even need romantic love. Friendship is something I want forever and I am always looking for my forever friend. Someone to listen to and who will listen to me. Someone I connect with even if we disagree. Someone who will always be there and will work things out and stand by me, as I will with them. True friends are rare these days and are easily confused with the 'friend who just kinda hangs around until something better comes along' type. A person should always have at least one friend, someone they can count on, always.

Optimism.

My personal experiences have been rather dark. So much wrong has happened and yet, I regret and would change nothing. You see, it is those hard times that have helped me to grow and be the strong young woman I am today. Optimism is being able to see the good even in the most horrible of situations. Some say "that just isn't realistic" but I beg to differ. When I was going through the horrors of living at my father's house, knowing that someday I would be free of him, kept me going. That seems sad but it helped me a lot and it eventually did happen. I am thankful. This is all very real and I would rather benefit myself rather than put myself down or make things harder.

Clarification.

I would rather be told something absolutely horrifying than left guessing as to what just happened. I value clarification because I see no point in leaving people running around in circles clueless. It helps to end relationships cleaner and guess free, and it helps people to move forward and know how to handle things better. All in all, friends, please just give clarification, it saves so much trouble.

Confrontation.

I value confrontation because if I have done something wrong or that does not suite you, let me know so I can learn, do something different, or talk about it. I like to get things resolved and fixed. How am I suppose to do this if you do not confront me with what I have done? I confront others as well, some do not know how to handle it. Now, how the confrontation is gone about is something to be careful of. You do not want to come off as a raging bull from hell.

Intelligence.

You do not have to be a mastermind to be intelligent. I understand being goofy and silly, that is all well, but please do not be a complete dunce all the time. Think before you act the best you can, same before you speak. Think, use your brain! You have it for a reason. I know everyone makes mistakes and we all have our off days, of course myself included, just please try when you can. Intelligence is such a beautiful thing. Even if you are completely wrong with whatever you might be discussing; learn otherwise and continue on. Simply taking the time to think is a miraculous occasion now a days.

Side note;
I will be adding more and more to this post I am sure. I have many values big and small, but I do not think I can think of all of them right now. Haha. As I always say, more on this later.

Happy Halloween

This was a very good Halloween. I did not get to leave gifts for the dead and reconnect with loved-ones passed, but I got to enjoy it with my baby sister. She is so in love with Halloween she literally plans for it the day after. Halloween also happens to be my mother and step father's anniversary, so I offered to babysit.

Szadika, my baby sister, was a pink mummy fairy. That is the strangest combination, but there was seriously a costume for it, so of course my mother ordered it for her. She loved it though, and looked adorable. I did her makeup all "spooky" and did mine as well (I was a zombie). When I was applying my stage blood, her eyes grew wide and she asked me if she could have some too. I asked her if mummies have blood and she told me, "They do now!" She is such a funny little thing. So I put some stage blood on her face, lit the jack-o-lanterns, and we head out for our candy excursion.

There is a house that every year does a fantastic job of decorating their house. Seriously the man living there plans all year (much like my sister) for what his next decorating job will be. This year I have to say has been my favourite. His yard had "tombstones" and "zombies" and all kinds of spooky things. He set up a house of webs over is driveway and had a fog machine inside. You have to walk through that to get to him if you want any candy. My little sister though was too scared, so I asked him if I could do it for her, but he came to me instead. He walked over and we talked about his decorating. He gave her a handful of candy, then he turned off the fog machine and walked both me and my little sister through the web tunnel, so she would not be afraid.

She was afraid at first but quickly fell in love with everything and could hardly stand leaving. He gave her another handful of candy, and turned the fog machine back on. Her and I walked out and her gave us one last handful of candy, and wished us a happy Halloween. She was very pleased with herself for her stash of candy from the first house, and the fact that she over came her fears. We stopped at many different houses, hitting up about 4 blocks worth (oh yes, yes we did). Our last stop being our grandmother's house. We stopped there and she sat down munching on some candy, and soon fell asleep.

I walked home and took a shower, watching my zombie self go down the drain. All in all this was a very good Halloween. It is a wonder what a simple little time with a loved one can do. She is a ball of sunshine and I love her very much. My parents came home, they said they had a great time. Now here I am in bed, writing this blog post. Friends I want you to know that it does not take great feats or gobs of cash to bring happiness. I walked around with my little sister and enjoyed her company, and I feel great. Spend time with your friends and family because it is the people who care about you and love you the most that matter, only they can make you truly happy. I had a great Halloween, and I hope you did too. I will write later, good night.

:)