My Values

This has been one of those days where I am feeling rather reflective. Lost in my thoughts about various things I realized that I have not stated my values. I mean sure you can guess from my previous posts, but to list and elaborate, I have yet to do. So that is what this post will be about. My values in elaboration.

Honesty.

Honesty to me is very important because how else can you expect to learn anything, if what you are learning is a lie? I am often lied to and do not take kindly. I have learned how to tell when someone is lying, but the behaviour disgusts me. So many wrongs can come of it, like a rumour or false allegations. Simply put, I cannot trust or respect someone who just lies. I know there is a time and place for such things, but a constant is not acceptable.

Friendship.

Friendship is extremely important to me because it is a love that can fulfill me to the point where I do not even need romantic love. Friendship is something I want forever and I am always looking for my forever friend. Someone to listen to and who will listen to me. Someone I connect with even if we disagree. Someone who will always be there and will work things out and stand by me, as I will with them. True friends are rare these days and are easily confused with the 'friend who just kinda hangs around until something better comes along' type. A person should always have at least one friend, someone they can count on, always.

Optimism.

My personal experiences have been rather dark. So much wrong has happened and yet, I regret and would change nothing. You see, it is those hard times that have helped me to grow and be the strong young woman I am today. Optimism is being able to see the good even in the most horrible of situations. Some say "that just isn't realistic" but I beg to differ. When I was going through the horrors of living at my father's house, knowing that someday I would be free of him, kept me going. That seems sad but it helped me a lot and it eventually did happen. I am thankful. This is all very real and I would rather benefit myself rather than put myself down or make things harder.

Clarification.

I would rather be told something absolutely horrifying than left guessing as to what just happened. I value clarification because I see no point in leaving people running around in circles clueless. It helps to end relationships cleaner and guess free, and it helps people to move forward and know how to handle things better. All in all, friends, please just give clarification, it saves so much trouble.

Confrontation.

I value confrontation because if I have done something wrong or that does not suite you, let me know so I can learn, do something different, or talk about it. I like to get things resolved and fixed. How am I suppose to do this if you do not confront me with what I have done? I confront others as well, some do not know how to handle it. Now, how the confrontation is gone about is something to be careful of. You do not want to come off as a raging bull from hell.

Intelligence.

You do not have to be a mastermind to be intelligent. I understand being goofy and silly, that is all well, but please do not be a complete dunce all the time. Think before you act the best you can, same before you speak. Think, use your brain! You have it for a reason. I know everyone makes mistakes and we all have our off days, of course myself included, just please try when you can. Intelligence is such a beautiful thing. Even if you are completely wrong with whatever you might be discussing; learn otherwise and continue on. Simply taking the time to think is a miraculous occasion now a days.

Side note;
I will be adding more and more to this post I am sure. I have many values big and small, but I do not think I can think of all of them right now. Haha. As I always say, more on this later.